In this day and age, Women are plagued with the notion that they are "missing out" on something and are encouraged to try many and new things. However, this always culminates around the people they are currently dating. The Banger Sister analogy has to do with whomever you are darting coming to realize that you are not for them. However, the movie is about realizing who you really were and who you have become and deciding how that will affect your current life as it matters to being a parent, a wife and career. For those of you who have not seen this movie I will give you a general summary so as to better understand where the concept is going.
The two main characters are Goldie Hawn and Suzanne Surandon. The back story of this movie is that both Suzette (Hawn and Vinnie (Surandon) were basically groupies of a band back in the day. When I say groupies, I mean they both were roadie whores who took Polaroids of the band members dicks they banged and thought it was cool and what not.
The story starts off with Suzette (Hawn) basically having her life come crashing down around her. she really has never let go of her roadie past and was basically a relic of the whole Haight-Ashbury hippie wanna be generation. Suzette has fallen on hard times so she looks up her old groupie friend Vinnie (Surandon) who has since grown up and married a successful man and started a family.
Suzette basically shows up on the seen after many years of being long gone and basically causes a huge strife with Vinnie and her family. At this point, Vinnie has grown up and has responsibilities as a mother and wife. Suzette basically accuses Vinnie of "selling out" and forgetting who she really is. The story is echoed by Vinnie's eldest daughter "Hannah" (Erika Christensen) who she herself is becoming rebellious and curious to the whole experiment stage of her life.
Vinnie (Surandon) character is struggling with memories from her past and her once great friendship with Suzette (Hawn). However, she is a married woman with duties as a mother. The story takes another twist when Vinnie finally realizes that she has become the disciplinary uptight square that she swore she would never be like in her old free Love days as a roadies whore. She see's her daughter in danger of making the same mistakes as repeating what she had done in the past and this scares her when her daughter discoveries her true past.
Suzette (Hawn) opens a can of worms and indirectly causes Vinnie to struggle with her past, who she really is and how this both puts strain on her marriage and family. So basically Suzette logic of, "Do what feels right and that is the answer to everything" logic runs into a brick wall of responsibility which this family was struggling to preserve. However, Vinnie can not hide the skeletons in her closet and is forced to display them in front of her family and Suzette realizes that people do have to grow up.
The story ends in a classic compromise setting where all lives happily ever after. In reality, when a successful man discoveries his wife who displayed strength, wit and responsibility to win him over was really a former roadie whore who was taken 6 days from Sunday in 52 states, it does not end happily ever after. In acceptation to, the movie did show the stress of what happens when mistakes are revealed in life and how who we are in the present time is what really matters. What the movie does not convey is the human element of the past and how it reacts to the present when discovered.
The Banger Sisters Analogy
I actually dated a girl I really cared about who actually used the "Banger Sisters" Analogy. As a responsible guy, I didn't understand the whole missing out concept because I always knew what I wanted in life and definitely in the woman I wanted to marry. However, the girl I was dating had watched this movie and realized that she was really pretending to be someone else while she was dating me. In other words, she was conforming to what she thought I wanted her to be like instead of who she really was.
Looking back, I really do understand why she left. We literally were complete opposites. She later revealed that I was a different kind of guy, "nice guy in the movies" that she always wanted the guy she was dating to be like. The only thing wrong with me was that I was not a pot head, a serial drinker and despised hanging out with idiots who still acted like they were in high school because they never went to college. Can you tell what kind of guy I am now and how she must felt?
Well, my girlfriend apparently saw this movie and realized her truth in life. She told me over and over again about how she felt she was the character "Vinnie" in the movie and that she ha lost sight of who she really was.
Well, I went on to graduate college and follow the straight and narrow path of being a real man with responsibility. My ex girlfriend dropped out of college and started dating guys who were living in the present not realizing they would be on government assistance when forced to live on their own quickly discovering that minimum wage can not support a grown up. The last thing I heard was she was living at home and was a photographer. Nonetheless, looking back, it was right for us to break up because we were in fact different people. I am thankful we did not get together, have a family and have her realize she wanted to be a roadie when we had a family.
In the end, the Banger sister Analogy means that you are breaking up with someone who realizes they are no good for you. You unconsciously intimated them and when you criticize those who have shown no ambition in life she feels as though you are saying it to her. You of course did not know this because you never knew who she really was to begin with. After some time passes after breaking up with someone like this, you will see the truth in it all. The truth is its a bit of fresh air to be with someone who you really know and who really knows herself.